Parents talk about transgender child's transition
Language-
"in the wrong body"
"biological girl"
"presenting as a boy"
Depression from "presenting" as a girl. Idea that it is "completely new, completely different" to be transgender. Increasing resources online and off.
They say Andy was happy. They say he was accepted by his younger sister, his friends, his classmates and his school. Andy's Boulder Valley kindergarten through 8th grade school created a unisex bathroom for him and listened to transgender speakers about the reality of living as the opposite biological gender.
Was everyone really so accepting?
Gold Rush Conference
Gender Identity Center of Colorado
Too short... very brief and obvious. Follows the "transgender child" story template.
See Tom Be Jane
Language
"biological male"
mixing of pronouns
"Nichole today dresses, acts, and lives like a girl." -- "acts" "dresses" like a girl-- gender stereotyping!
Aurora ZACHARY LIPSCOMB
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/americas/932783.stm
"Gender Identity Disorder"
-- court case -- MTF child taken away by authorities from parents for trying to enroll her in school as girl.-- OHIO
"Studies show that many [trans kids] end up as gay adults"--- WHAT studies? It would be interesting to seek out and read these, if they exist.
-- edit- (4) mentions communities critique of ONE study done on this subject-- also an article about brains of transgendered individuals having unique characteristics that cannot be "Grown out of"
MICHAEL KANTARAS custody case
Wiki
-- see sources listed in Wiki article
Karen Doering- attorney for National Center for Lesbian Rights
Mark Angelo Cummings- Transman on a Mission
"birth defect" of transgenderism
GID- calling trangenderedness a "disorder."
Philadelphia Trans-health Conference- "How Young is Too Young?"
A Boy's Life
Why do all these articles focus on Barbies and dress up? Are these kinds of articles damaging to non-transgender/non-gay transvestites? How are they contributing to stereotyping along gender lines?
Language-
"God made a mistake."
"the 'I' was a girl, often with big red lips, high heels, and a princess dress."
"(natal) son"
"affirmed female" vs. mtf "because how can you be a male-to-female if you really were always a female in your brain?" (7)
"born in the wrong body" catchphrase
Dr. John Money-- gender as a social construction ---- see DAVID REIMER -raised as girl but rebelled against this- was born boy. lived again as male.
what about option of genderlessness? (X: A Fabulous Child's Story)
BRAIN GENDER- MELISSA HINES
Norman Spack- "hormonal fix"
puberty/hormone blockers- science as an aspect of trans rights movement. Also-- infertility as an issue. "Reversible"? To what point?
Barbara Walters 20/20 Special with "Jazz"
Trans Health Conference in Philadelphia
J.T Hayes Newsweek
Kenneth Zucker- in Toronto- "specialist"
Is Milton Diamond report on twins published yet?
Study in Nature- 1995
Monkey study- 1988- "masculinize the brains but not the bodies of the female babies"
The "Sissy Boy Syndrome" and the Development of Homosexuality- "we can't tell a pre-gay from a pre-transsexual at 8"
Diagnostic and Statistic Manual of Mental Disorders will be updated in 2012- effort to get Gender Identity Disorder off list
transexual identity as easier to accept than homosexuality
the "right clothes"
Notes/Thoughts on all
Christine Jorgenson!
Christine in the Cutting Room - upcoming film by Susan Stryker
Friday, February 26, 2010
Tuesday, February 23, 2010
To the Lady
TO THE LADY by Mitsuye Yamada
The one in San Francisco who asked:
Why did the Japanese Americans let
the government put them in
those camps without protest?
Come the think of it I
should’ve run off to Canada
should’ve hijacked a plane to Algeria
should’ve pulled myself up from my
bra straps
and kicked ‘m in the groin
should’ve bombed a bank
should’ve tried self-immolation
should’ve holed myself up in a
woodframe house
and let you watch me
burn up on the six o’clock news
should’ve run howling down the street
naked and assaulted you at breakfast
by AP wirephoto
should’ve screamed bloody murder
like Kitty Genovese
Then
YOU would’ve
come to my aid in shining armor
laid yourself across the railroad track
marched on Washington
tattooed a Star of David on your arm
written six million enraged
letters to Congress
But we didn’t draw the line
anywhere
law and order Executive Order 9066
social order moral order internal order
You let’m
I let’m
All are punished
The one in San Francisco who asked:
Why did the Japanese Americans let
the government put them in
those camps without protest?
Come the think of it I
should’ve run off to Canada
should’ve hijacked a plane to Algeria
should’ve pulled myself up from my
bra straps
and kicked ‘m in the groin
should’ve bombed a bank
should’ve tried self-immolation
should’ve holed myself up in a
woodframe house
and let you watch me
burn up on the six o’clock news
should’ve run howling down the street
naked and assaulted you at breakfast
by AP wirephoto
should’ve screamed bloody murder
like Kitty Genovese
Then
YOU would’ve
come to my aid in shining armor
laid yourself across the railroad track
marched on Washington
tattooed a Star of David on your arm
written six million enraged
letters to Congress
But we didn’t draw the line
anywhere
law and order Executive Order 9066
social order moral order internal order
You let’m
I let’m
All are punished
poetry is...
poetry is that rough and muddy sport through which I tackle words and force them into orderly and sometimes sensical rows
it is an art of romantic but unloved women who lock themselves in towers in castles in foreign lands to wait for their beloveds to save them
it is a science whereby alchemy creates of the dirtiest and plainest of elements gold from the friendly folks at hallmark
and, of course, the ghost of emotions past- the harsher the greater- which are exploited time and again for fame and recognized genius
... etc.
it is an art of romantic but unloved women who lock themselves in towers in castles in foreign lands to wait for their beloveds to save them
it is a science whereby alchemy creates of the dirtiest and plainest of elements gold from the friendly folks at hallmark
and, of course, the ghost of emotions past- the harsher the greater- which are exploited time and again for fame and recognized genius
... etc.
Thursday, February 18, 2010
For K---'s Class
See how I censored it all 1800's-y? ...
----
1-
Shoulders moving, hunched, hand before face
on cheeks and eyes and nose and over mouth
"I have sacrificed," he says, or the subtitles say he says, "How I have sacrificed."
Shadows weighing down the eyes, wrinkles, aging hands and grey- all
Stop
A song (what was it?)
Dramatic, instrumental, and slow
Motion- slow or fast- and slow
Strings increase
then, in the air!
then, down!
"I have sacrificed," she said, or so they said she said.
Hopes, pride, a life
Faster- strings, percussion, movement
it goes
once last
Swish
Bang
Slice
Twirling
Spinning
Up and smoothly falling and smoothly doing and then just falling
No!
"We have sacrificed," they said.
"And for what?"
----
2-
So, how was it?
How was what?
You know.
So?
And?
And what?
I mean, well, I had to do it, so what does it matter anyway?
So it was bad?
I didn't say that.
It seemed like you did.
Well, I didn't.
So what did she say?
A lot of things. It's been awhile.
Like?
How it'd been a while.
And?
I don't know. Her life- my life- life in general-- life.
What in her life?
Look, she didn't say she missed me-
-I didn't ask that-
-and that's all that matters. All that mattered.
----
3
The signs of a future hoarder- a television freak/star. 4 copies of the same photo of the same baby, old ids from other countries, expired bus passes and transfers, stubs for movies I never saw. Business cards hanging around like a bucket list cut into confetti then saved for years and years and years and years like a living will that says, "pull the plug! this one must go!" A receipt someone else left at the counter- held onto for some voyeuristic reason understood only by dead shrinks and incarcerated sociopaths. Spent giftcards from seven Christmases past. Torn and too many times folded coupons. The phone number of a lover gone-- long gone.
My This wallet is a grave
but then
it isn't really mine
I guess
----
1-
Shoulders moving, hunched, hand before face
on cheeks and eyes and nose and over mouth
"I have sacrificed," he says, or the subtitles say he says, "How I have sacrificed."
Shadows weighing down the eyes, wrinkles, aging hands and grey- all
Stop
A song (what was it?)
Dramatic, instrumental, and slow
Motion- slow or fast- and slow
Strings increase
then, in the air!
then, down!
"I have sacrificed," she said, or so they said she said.
Hopes, pride, a life
Faster- strings, percussion, movement
it goes
once last
Swish
Bang
Slice
Twirling
Spinning
Up and smoothly falling and smoothly doing and then just falling
No!
"We have sacrificed," they said.
"And for what?"
----
2-
So, how was it?
How was what?
You know.
So?
And?
And what?
I mean, well, I had to do it, so what does it matter anyway?
So it was bad?
I didn't say that.
It seemed like you did.
Well, I didn't.
So what did she say?
A lot of things. It's been awhile.
Like?
How it'd been a while.
And?
I don't know. Her life- my life- life in general-- life.
What in her life?
Look, she didn't say she missed me-
-I didn't ask that-
-and that's all that matters. All that mattered.
----
3
The signs of a future hoarder- a television freak/star. 4 copies of the same photo of the same baby, old ids from other countries, expired bus passes and transfers, stubs for movies I never saw. Business cards hanging around like a bucket list cut into confetti then saved for years and years and years and years like a living will that says, "pull the plug! this one must go!" A receipt someone else left at the counter- held onto for some voyeuristic reason understood only by dead shrinks and incarcerated sociopaths. Spent giftcards from seven Christmases past. Torn and too many times folded coupons. The phone number of a lover gone-- long gone.
but then
it isn't really mine
I guess
Writing Practicum #4 (I think...)
I lost track of the numbers. Oh well.
Mi Rebozo-
Mi rebozo mi rebozo,
a vine creeping down my torso
not like a noose in the slightest
around my neck- my rebozo
You smell like perfume, oodles and oodles of perfume, that I sprayed on you before locking you in a drawer for five days straight. Those were cold days when my neck felt bare like it was just waiting for a vampire to come over and take a nip.
It couldn't be helped. That man, the drunk one, you know, he threw up all over the train and I was in the same car. The stench- it carries and you, my rebozo, you caught it- you sacrificed your loveliness to keep the smell from carrying to the engineer, who surely would have crashed from the terrible odor's intensity.
Mi rebozo mi rebozo,
a vine creeping down my torso
nostalgically catching the wind
always de moda- rebozo
I tore you- you must forgive my carelessness. You came with a tag for washing instructions and I couldn't very well have a store-bought rebozo. What would the other Latin@s think? They would think, "that poor girl- nobody loves her. See how she has had to pay for her rebozo."
Which isn't true at all, for I've got a homemade rebozo too- I've got two. But those ones aren't so long and aren't half so bright, and don't make me feel like an old film star at all. They make me feel like I reek of la frontera, las fronteras, like the vomit of that man on the train that hangs on you, my poor rebozo, even behind the perfume.
So I cut the tag off, and cut a bit of you off along with it.
Mi rebozo mi rebozo
a vine creeping down my torso
que hermoso, que hermoso
my fills the sky rebozo
Mi rebozo favorito, you did not come from Chile, you did not come from México, you probably did not even come from Kawagoe, where I bought you on sale for less than $10. But you shine like that bell tower in Kawagoe and you glisten like the sands of Monte Albán and you sparkle like the sea off the coast of Valparaíso. You are woven with memories for I have forced them in between the yarns.
Just like you smell (mostly) beautiful because I have doused you in Marc Jacob's Daisy. You smell just like me.
Mi rebozo mi rebozo
Mi Rebozo-
Mi rebozo mi rebozo,
a vine creeping down my torso
not like a noose in the slightest
around my neck- my rebozo
You smell like perfume, oodles and oodles of perfume, that I sprayed on you before locking you in a drawer for five days straight. Those were cold days when my neck felt bare like it was just waiting for a vampire to come over and take a nip.
It couldn't be helped. That man, the drunk one, you know, he threw up all over the train and I was in the same car. The stench- it carries and you, my rebozo, you caught it- you sacrificed your loveliness to keep the smell from carrying to the engineer, who surely would have crashed from the terrible odor's intensity.
Mi rebozo mi rebozo,
a vine creeping down my torso
nostalgically catching the wind
always de moda- rebozo
I tore you- you must forgive my carelessness. You came with a tag for washing instructions and I couldn't very well have a store-bought rebozo. What would the other Latin@s think? They would think, "that poor girl- nobody loves her. See how she has had to pay for her rebozo."
Which isn't true at all, for I've got a homemade rebozo too- I've got two. But those ones aren't so long and aren't half so bright, and don't make me feel like an old film star at all. They make me feel like I reek of la frontera, las fronteras, like the vomit of that man on the train that hangs on you, my poor rebozo, even behind the perfume.
So I cut the tag off, and cut a bit of you off along with it.
Mi rebozo mi rebozo
a vine creeping down my torso
que hermoso, que hermoso
my fills the sky rebozo
Mi rebozo favorito, you did not come from Chile, you did not come from México, you probably did not even come from Kawagoe, where I bought you on sale for less than $10. But you shine like that bell tower in Kawagoe and you glisten like the sands of Monte Albán and you sparkle like the sea off the coast of Valparaíso. You are woven with memories for I have forced them in between the yarns.
Just like you smell (mostly) beautiful because I have doused you in Marc Jacob's Daisy. You smell just like me.
Mi rebozo mi rebozo
Wednesday, February 17, 2010
I Must Remember to Check This Out!
And steal books from the list bwahahah... by which I mean, to add them to my list, and then to check and see if they are at the library. Because, well, um, I just don't have the money$ to get all the books they don't have at the library. Hm, maybe I should buckle down and go used book shopping crazy-like on a huge scale in the near future to sneak out these books. Mom- are you interested? We can hit every Half-Price Books in the state and THEN go to Powell's and spend the night in Oregon! Yay!
... I need to go to sleep. Here is the link to a librarian's list on a blog: http://booksforkidsingayfamilies.blogspot.com/
... I need to go to sleep. Here is the link to a librarian's list on a blog: http://booksforkidsingayfamilies.blogspot.com/
Monday, February 8, 2010
GLBTQI Children's Lit Reading List
I hope I actually remember to update this thing-- in purple= I've read it-- in green= not available through KCLS (King County Library System) :( I will come up with some other color code when I figure out how to get these books without going broke-- I may be prowling Half Price Books a lot in the coming months O.o They have them for so cheap on Amazon but the shipping is crazy! Le sigh!
*= I loved this book
Updated 2.15.10
EDIT: 2.17.10--- holy moly, do you think they might have some of these at the UW Libraries? I didn't even think that they would have children's books, but why WOULDN'T they? There are people that study children's lit exclusively! I will check out some of these puppies on the UW Libraries site, and then readjust everything from green to orange that isn't there either.
10,000 Dresses
123 A Family Counting Book
ABC A Family Alphabet Book
Aisha's Moonlit Walk-- check KCLS
All Families are Different
All Families are Special
El Amor de Todos los Colores- the Many Colored Love
Amazing Mommies
Amy Asks a Question
Anna's Aunts Get Married
Anna Day and the O-Ring
And Tango Makes Three
Antonio's Card/La Tarjeta de Antonio by Rigoberto Gonzalez
Asha's Mum
At My House, What Makes a Family is Love
Bedtime for Baby Teddy
A Beach Party With Alexis
Belinda’s Bouquet
Best, Best Colors: Los Mejores Colores by Hoffman, Henriquez and Vega
Box Girl
A Boy's Best Friend
The Boy Who Cried Fabulous ("gay tendencies"... this sounds v. stereotypical)--- NOTE: NOT A GLBTQ-THEMED BOOK. It's pretty offensive that the boy is deemed "gay" by readers just because he uses the word "fabulous." Really? Really? Le sigh!
Buster's Sugartime (I find it hard to believe an Arthur book has GLBTQI themes but...)
The Case of the Stolen Scarab (Candlestone Inn Mystery #1)
A Clear Spring
The Daddy Machine
Daddy, Papa, and Me
Daddy's Roommate by Michael Wilhoite - Very sweet, though I'm not sure the men need to be half naked so often. ^^*
Daddy's Wedding
The Day They Put a Tax on Rainbows and Other Stories
The Different Dragon
The Dragon and the Doctor
The Duke Who Outlawed Jelly Beans and Other Stories
Else-Marie and her Seven Little Daddies
Emma and Meesha My Boy: A Two Mom Story
The Entertainer
Everywhere Babies
The Family Book
Families: A Celebration Of Diversity, Commitment And Love
A Family Has in it the People You Love
Felicia’s Favorite Story
Flying Free
From the Notebooks of Melanin Sun- by Jacqueline Woodson
Generous Jefferson Bartleby Jones
Gertrude is Gertrude is Gertrude is Gertrude- Jonah Winter*
Gloria Goes to Gay Pride
Going to Fair Day
The Harvey Milk Story
Heather Has Two Mommies
Hello, Sailor
Holly’s Secret
How it Feels to Have a Gay or Lesbian Parent: A Book by Kids for Kids of All Ages
How My Family Came to Be— Daddy, Papa and Me
How Would You Feel if Your Dad Was Gay?
If I Had 100 Mummies
In Our Mothers' House
Is Your Family Like Mine? by Louis Abramchik
It's Okay to Be Different
Jack and Jim
Jennifer Has Two Daddies
Jenny Lives With Eric And Martin
Josh and Jaz Have Three Mums
King and King
King and King and Family
Koalas on Parade
Living in Secret by Christina Salat
Losing Uncle Tim (Though it seems to be about AIDS actually- which assumes that everyone who has HIV/AIDS is gay)
Lots of Mommies
Love Makes a Family: Portraits of Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender Parents and Their Families (photography)
Lucy Goes To The Country by Joe Kennedy and John Canemaker
Mama Eat Ant, Yuck
Milly, Molly, and Different Dads
Mini Mia and Her Darling Uncle
Molly’s Family
Mom and Mum are Getting Married!
Mommy, Mama, and Me
Monicka's Papa is Tall
Morning Light (Also actually about HIV/AIDS- but I haven't read these, so I should check them out first)
Mother's Day on Martha's Vineyard
My Dad Has HIV (ditto...)
My Family, Our Family, Your Family
My House
My Really Cool Baby Book
My Two Uncles
The Name on the Quilt: A Story of Remembrance
The Not-So-Only Child
Oh the Things Mommies Do!: What Could Be Better than Having Two?
Oliver Button is a Sissy (gender roles)
One Dad, Two Dads, Brown Dad, Blue Dad
One Hundred is a Family
Pugdog-- check KCLS
Queen Munch and Queen Nibble
The Rainbow Cubby House
Ray Loves Milo-- series?
Real Heroes by Marilyn Kaye
Red Ribbon (ditto)
Ryan's Mom is Tall
Saturday Is Pattyday
A Smile So Big
Spacegirl Pukes
Tale of Two Daddies
The Sissy Duckling by Harvey Fierstein
The Skull of Truth: A Magic Shop Book
Tales of Zebedy-Do-Dah
Tanny's Meow
Tiger Flowers (ditto)
Too Far Away to Touch (ditto...)
Two Daddies and Me
Two Moms
Two Moms, the Zark, and Me
Uncle Aiden
Uncle Bobby's Wedding
Uncle What-is-It Is Coming to Visit
We All Sing with the Same Voice
We Belong Together
What are Parents?
When Megan Went Away
When Grown-Ups Fall in Love
While You Were Sleeping (not the movie with Sandra Bullock...)
The White Swan Express
Who's in a Family?
William's Doll (gender roles)
Wishing for Kittens
Your Family, My Family
Zack’s Story
The Zark and Me
*= I loved this book
Updated 2.15.10
EDIT: 2.17.10--- holy moly, do you think they might have some of these at the UW Libraries? I didn't even think that they would have children's books, but why WOULDN'T they? There are people that study children's lit exclusively! I will check out some of these puppies on the UW Libraries site, and then readjust everything from green to orange that isn't there either.
10,000 Dresses
123 A Family Counting Book
ABC A Family Alphabet Book
Aisha's Moonlit Walk-- check KCLS
All Families are Different
All Families are Special
El Amor de Todos los Colores- the Many Colored Love
Amazing Mommies
Amy Asks a Question
Anna's Aunts Get Married
Anna Day and the O-Ring
And Tango Makes Three
Antonio's Card/La Tarjeta de Antonio by Rigoberto Gonzalez
Asha's Mum
At My House, What Makes a Family is Love
Bedtime for Baby Teddy
A Beach Party With Alexis
Belinda’s Bouquet
Best, Best Colors: Los Mejores Colores by Hoffman, Henriquez and Vega
Box Girl
A Boy's Best Friend
Buster's Sugartime (I find it hard to believe an Arthur book has GLBTQI themes but...)
The Case of the Stolen Scarab (Candlestone Inn Mystery #1)
A Clear Spring
The Daddy Machine
Daddy, Papa, and Me
Daddy's Roommate by Michael Wilhoite - Very sweet, though I'm not sure the men need to be half naked so often. ^^*
Daddy's Wedding
The Day They Put a Tax on Rainbows and Other Stories
The Different Dragon
The Dragon and the Doctor
The Duke Who Outlawed Jelly Beans and Other Stories
Else-Marie and her Seven Little Daddies
Emma and Meesha My Boy: A Two Mom Story
The Entertainer
Everywhere Babies
The Family Book
Families: A Celebration Of Diversity, Commitment And Love
A Family Has in it the People You Love
Felicia’s Favorite Story
Flying Free
From the Notebooks of Melanin Sun- by Jacqueline Woodson
Generous Jefferson Bartleby Jones
Gertrude is Gertrude is Gertrude is Gertrude- Jonah Winter*
Gloria Goes to Gay Pride
Going to Fair Day
The Harvey Milk Story
Heather Has Two Mommies
Hello, Sailor
Holly’s Secret
How it Feels to Have a Gay or Lesbian Parent: A Book by Kids for Kids of All Ages
How My Family Came to Be— Daddy, Papa and Me
How Would You Feel if Your Dad Was Gay?
If I Had 100 Mummies
In Our Mothers' House
Is Your Family Like Mine? by Louis Abramchik
It's Okay to Be Different
Jack and Jim
Jennifer Has Two Daddies
Jenny Lives With Eric And Martin
Josh and Jaz Have Three Mums
King and King
King and King and Family
Koalas on Parade
Living in Secret by Christina Salat
Losing Uncle Tim (Though it seems to be about AIDS actually- which assumes that everyone who has HIV/AIDS is gay)
Lots of Mommies
Love Makes a Family: Portraits of Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender Parents and Their Families (photography)
Lucy Goes To The Country by Joe Kennedy and John Canemaker
Mama Eat Ant, Yuck
Milly, Molly, and Different Dads
Mini Mia and Her Darling Uncle
Molly’s Family
Mom and Mum are Getting Married!
Mommy, Mama, and Me
Monicka's Papa is Tall
Morning Light (Also actually about HIV/AIDS- but I haven't read these, so I should check them out first)
Mother's Day on Martha's Vineyard
My Dad Has HIV (ditto...)
My Family, Our Family, Your Family
My House
My Really Cool Baby Book
My Two Uncles
The Name on the Quilt: A Story of Remembrance
The Not-So-Only Child
Oh the Things Mommies Do!: What Could Be Better than Having Two?
Oliver Button is a Sissy (gender roles)
One Dad, Two Dads, Brown Dad, Blue Dad
One Hundred is a Family
Pugdog-- check KCLS
Queen Munch and Queen Nibble
The Rainbow Cubby House
Ray Loves Milo-- series?
Real Heroes by Marilyn Kaye
Red Ribbon (ditto)
Ryan's Mom is Tall
Saturday Is Pattyday
A Smile So Big
Spacegirl Pukes
Tale of Two Daddies
The Sissy Duckling by Harvey Fierstein
The Skull of Truth: A Magic Shop Book
Tales of Zebedy-Do-Dah
Tanny's Meow
Tiger Flowers (ditto)
Too Far Away to Touch (ditto...)
Two Daddies and Me
Two Moms
Two Moms, the Zark, and Me
Uncle Aiden
Uncle Bobby's Wedding
Uncle What-is-It Is Coming to Visit
We All Sing with the Same Voice
We Belong Together
What are Parents?
When Megan Went Away
When Grown-Ups Fall in Love
While You Were Sleeping (not the movie with Sandra Bullock...)
The White Swan Express
Who's in a Family?
William's Doll (gender roles)
Wishing for Kittens
Your Family, My Family
Zack’s Story
The Zark and Me
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